Have you ever wondered why introverted people are more attractive? How often have you had an attraction towards someone that seemed to melt away the moment they started being friendly to you? Have you realized how often men and women crush on those from other streams or colleges? There seems to be an aura around people who don't communicate to us much. They seem to have a veiled mystery in them and there is something about their presence that is often queer yet magnetic. Often, people romanticize those who are distant to them and sadly take for granted those who are nearer to them. Maybe that's why feelings of attraction often fade away in the first few months of a relationship, making space for a lot of trust and commitment from both sides to make it work. I always knew there was something common about a few personalities that attracted me. When I came across the video from The School of Life, 'The Charms of Unavailable People', I actually could figure out what it was...
On reading the book 'The Four Hour Work Week' only a few weeks back, I came across a principle that blew my mind-'Pareto Principle' aka 'The 80-20 Rule'. As per the rule, 20% of input( time, resources, effort) accounts for 80% output(results, rewards). When I investigated the principle further, I was astounded to see how much it made sense in my life. Just like Pareto said, almost 80% of my happiness and growth came from about only 20% of areas where I invested my time and energy. On the flip side, I spent 80% of my time, either on nonsensical things or on doing what was somehow detrimental to my growth and happiness. I understood Pareto's principle even better when I started analyzing my relationships with people in general. Most of us are fortunate enough to know at least some people in our lives who we can count on in times of need, the ones that applaud us when we achieve something worthwhile, the ones that uplift us, love us, bring out the best in us. L...